Are you your stories?

Dave Winer asks a question on Scripting News today. The question is a bit of a different form, but one that I've often contemplated. What is reality? Is your "reality" and my reality the same? Is each person's reality so shaped by their perception and experience that is is unique? Dali asks the same question in this painting. Is it possible for people to be more than the sum of their stories. Does anything other than your stories, those you have lived, show you the swans first or the elephants?